Understanding Body Language

Body language has always been important in determining what goes unsaid while communicating with others. It is a clear indicator of whether people actually mean what they say, and we are able to gauge the stance of a person by his/her body language. Understanding body language is important in communication with people who are part of different aspects of our lives. Whether it is a personal relationship or a professional relationship, knowing the intricacies of body language is essential. Not only does it help you understand the opposite person, it helps the opposite person understand a little about you. While it may not be a sure shot method of completely being able to understand someone, it definitely has more value than the verbal proclamations made by people.

Studies have shown that understanding men’s body language is easier for women, than understanding women’s body language by men. This is because women are more receptive to various body language signals, and are able to mark out inconsistencies in verbal communication and body language. On the other hand, men are known for their desire for everything to be explained verbally, than through gestures and body language. For detail follow category Body Language.

Flirting Body Language

Body language flirting signs can either indicate romantic interest or may be sexual overtures. Though body language flirting signs of men and women are different, there are some signs that are shown by both. Flirtatious gestures can be exhibited not only through one’s body postures, but also through one’s facial expressions and eye contacts. So, here are some signs that may indicate that the person whom you are having a conversation with is attracted to you.

Body Language Flirting Signs #01
Eyes convey a lot of things that even words cannot. So, one of the most common as well as the most important body language flirting signs is the eye contact. A person who is interested in you, not only will look at you, but will hold your eye contact for a few minutes. If you have observed a woman sitting across the room making frequent eye contacts with you, chances are there that she is interested in you. Apart from this, raised eyebrows can also be the sign of flirting.

Body Language Flirting Signs #02
Smiling is one of the common male and female body language flirting signs. A pleasant smile which reveals the upper as well as the lower teeth is a sign that explains that he/she is pleased to be in the other person’s company. Laughter is also another sign that shows that the person sitting opposite to you is interested in you. If your companion is laughing at all your jokes and one liners, even though they are not very funny, chances are that he/she finds you attractive.

Body Language Flirting Signs #03
It has been observed that men and women who indulge in flirting are seen to fiddle a lot with their hands. For instance, women are likely to play with their earrings and necklaces while conversing with men they are interested in. Also, some women indulge in flicking their hair or may be twirling and twisting their strands in front of the person they like. This applies to the men folk too. Usually, while having a conversation with women they are interested in, men try to straighten their hair or straighten their neckties like they are unconsciously trying to look well groomed. It has also been observed that men constantly touch their face while looking or talking to the woman they are interested in.

Body Language Flirting Signs #04
Many times, while talking to the person of the opposite sex, men as well as women try to mirror the other person, though usually in a subconscious way. If you have observed two lovers talking in a restaurant, you may observe that they are mirroring each others body language as well as body positions. This is one of the very common male as well as female body language flirting signs. Other than this, leaning towards the person and lightly touching the other person’s shoulder, arm or knee are also some obvious sign of flirting.

Body Language

Love has its own Body Language

Focus

If you’re interested in someone, you focus and pay attention. If you’re not interested in someone, your attention wanders. So if you’re sitting with the person you like, and he/she is looking at you when you’re talking, that’s a great sign. The eyes have it all and thus if the person is not interested he/she will keep looking out the window, or watching other girls/men.

Dilated eyes
As they say “The eyes are the window to the soul.” Thus while you are talking to the person you like, your eye pupils dialate (get bigger) when you’re excited. So if someone’s eyes look really big, it shows they’re interested. Thus keep your eyes on him/her and observe the eyes.

Lip and Mouth Activities
A girl might bite her lip gently, or run her tongue along her lip to show that she is interested. Some girls even do this deliberately to flirt, although it rarely looks natural. If you’re a girl, don’t try it, unless you’re really sure it looks natural.

Hair
Fiddling and playing with hair is one way to show that you are interested. Girls wrap their fingers in their hair. Guys run their hands through their hair. Note that twirling your hair is more a sign of boredom and distraction.

Arms and Hands
If the girl keeps her arms or hands closed or crossed (which is normal if its cold) then that is a clear indication that she’s not feeling comfortable. Arms that are out and away from her are less ‘defensive’. Also, if the woman leaves her wrist-up, it’s sort of an “I trust you” motion.

Legs
Women normally like to sit cross-legged and note that it doesn’t mean that she isn’t interested. So forget about that and concentrate on the toes because, toes tend to react to general body energy. So if someone’s feeling bored and listless, they might just lay there. But if someone is feeling excited and energetic, the toe might make little circles or bounce. Women when are interested point their toes towards the man.

The Voice
The way someone talks and especially the tone of the voice is hugely important. It will instantly tell you whether: Are they bored and weary? Are they thoughtful and quiet? Are they enthused and interested? To find out whether the person is interested in you first watch your own speech and then watch how their speech changes. If someone wants to ‘get along’ with someone else, they naturally match their speech patterns together. If you’re interested in someone, you start to naturally speak like them, using the same tone of voice, the same loudness/softness and speed, the same phrases even.

Signs of Attraction

Body Language Signs of Attraction

Budge Please!

Irrespective of where you have met him and irrespective of where you are going to meet him, does he offer you a seat next to him? Does he ask his friends to budge a little aside so that you can sit next to him? If yes, this is an obvious sign of male attraction. Closeness is the first of the body language signs of attraction. Even though he may want to be close to you, the situation may put him on guard. Don’t panic or be judgmental, give him some space and he’ll come back. So if the answers to the earlier questions is yes, there you go!

Read the Eyes
As the old adage goes, eyes are the windows to the trapped soul. Considering that it’s an old adage, it’s tried and tested too. A firm eye contact has a lot of power. A confident and unwavering eye contact, means the person is surely interested in interacting with you. Now, the ball is in your court, bounce it back, or better, don’t!

Copy Cat
The last time you copied, it was unethical. Copying the actions, gestures and gesticulations of the person you are attracted to, is one of the obvious body language signs of attraction. It’s natural to mirror someone you like, so if there is someone who likes you, the body language will show.

Say Cheese
The most easy and sure body language of attraction is a simple smile. Getting a smile back from the person you are attracted to, is half the battle won. And a smile with an eye contact is a powerful combination that just cannot go wrong.

Precious Touch
Touching while talking is also another of the body language signs of attraction. Usually, women tend to do this more than men. If she touches your forearm while talking, or slaps your wrist or touches you on the back while moving in a crowd then she likes you too.

Easy Lean
If she leans over you to take something or pick something up, then there are no two ways about her attraction towards you. Don’t move away while she trying to lean over you, because she is just doing it to be close to you. So let her be, as that’s her way of saying ‘I like you’.

Body language and signs of romantic attraction have an epic to tell if you are interested. To determine the attraction towards you, silently observe the person, and this time try to listen to the language of the body with your eyes wide open! Body language in attraction is way different from body language in routine life. Body language and attraction signs are many, but just a smile and eye contact have a lot to say. Here’s your chance to find out.